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] that the primary cause of the [shidduch crisis] is that boys frequently prefer girls who are a few years younger…Since every year our population grows, the result is that there are always more girls in need of a shidduch than there are available boys.” The letter strongly urges shadhanim [matchmakers] to push shidduchim[matches] in which there is a minimal age gap between the boy and girl, or for the girl to be older.Those who signed this letter have essentially advertised their ignorance of these critical issues and have recklessly urged a harmful course of action.Shame on them and shame on those responsible for this letter.A rabbi cannot tell us that the chicken is really an ostrich.A true Torah scholar is well aware of a communal crisis early on, even anticipates the crisis.All those other issues I’ve been writing about for seven years? But the proposed solution - manipulate men to marry older women - is predicated on the assumption that if we can only buy some time things will even out. This fancy cocktail of demography, sociology, mathematics and mythology is really nothing more than a Ponzi scheme.
Is he supposed to convince himself that he doesn’t know better, can’t possibly know better?
For years we were told that there is no crisis in the “frum world,” only in the “modern world.” Then a crisis was grudgingly acknowledged but blamed on scapegoats like television, movies and the Internet, implying that good Jews who avoided these contaminants faced no crisis.
Then we were told the problem was simply that singles are too picky, or that some girls are not “cut out” for the holy kollel lifestyle, or that we should learn from the arranged marriages of the hassidic world, where everything is always swell. It has finally been revealed that the heart of the problem is a shortage of eligible men and too wide an age gap in shidduchim. THE PROPOSED solution of these signatories is even more bizarre than their determination of the problem. The problem assumes that more girls are being born than boys, thus exacerbating the gender disparity over time.
After all, their shidduch exacerbates a demographic problem.
If I have the opportunity to introduce a man and woman who seem absolutely perfect for one another, I should first see if I can find an older woman for that man.And let’s assume we can manipulate the men to marry the oldest women in the pool. There are a finite number of men and a finite number of women, and each shidduch takes one of each out of the group.